By Mommy Mimi
Sometimes it is necessary to be honest with ourselves when it comes to our parental tendencies. Parenting is a tough task and at any given time there are a number of things that we could be doing right and just as many that we could be doing wrong.
As a SAHM it is easy to assume that I spend quality time with my children because I am with them every day. Last week my son was on Spring Break and I had an epiphany. I pay more attention to my daughter than I do my son. Using the excuse that my daughter is a baby has grown old. My son requires just as much of my attention, yet in a different capacity and there are many times when I have failed to cater to him, as I should. I find myself in awe at everything the baby does while assuming that my son doesn’t require as much affirmation from me. The truth of the matter is he still needs me and I haven’t done the best job at balancing between the two.
I was told that making the transition from one to two was not going to be an easy task, and those words of wisdom have proven themselves true. I was quite confident that I would be the mother who would effortlessly juggle my roles as a mother, wife and entrepreneur with ease but the truth is my life feels as if it’s in a constant state of disarray on the best of days and it seems my children may be catching the brunt of it.
Crying over spilled milk, I don’t do. Fixing things, I’m the master at. As hard as it’s going to be, I am making an executive decision to start limiting my time on the computer and phone when they are awake. I am working on a number of professional tasks but those things will have to wait until my husband comes home from work or they are in bed. If that means I don’t sleep then so be it! While I have my own goals, my roles as a mother and wife come first. I have a feeling there will be many sleepless nights but I’m guessing that’s what Starbucks is for!
Have you found it difficult to pay your children equal amounts of attention? Do you have any habits or tendencies that might be stealing valuable time from your children?