By Mommy Mimi
About three years ago I lost my mother. When my mother left, my son was only two years old and I was extremely fearful of how he would react to her absence because she lived with us and was a major part of his daily routine. He adored his “Gan-ma”.
Despite the enormous amount of grief I was feeling, for the next few months I would consistently ask him if he remembered Grandma Denise. I would show him pictures and ask him what he remembered about her. Or I would say things like remember when Grandma Denise did this or cooked that.
Lately I have slacked off. There are pictures of her around but I don’t engage him nearly as much as I did. The thought has crossed my mind of how I will teach the baby about how great her grandmother was when the time comes. I came into the room the other day to find my son had taken down a photo of her and put it to my daughter’s face and said, “ This is Grandma Denise, when you get older I’ll tell you allllllll about her.” *tears* Not that I didn’t think he remembered her because he makes mention of her from time to time but just the sheer fact that at his young age he understood the importance of preserving her legacy and passing it along to his sister.
While she may never see her grandmother in the flesh, I now feel confident in knowing that we will make sure she knows that her grandmother was an awesome woman, who cared deeply for her family. I have many items of hers that I plan to pass down to them and although she is no longer here with us, I have to respect her for all of the sacrifices that she made to make me the individual that I am today. If we don’t respect the past and where we came from, how can we fully embrace the future.
Love you Mommy!
If you’ve lost loved ones, how do you make sure their legacy and memory is remembered by your children?